Why Do My Parents Enable My Drug Addict Brother?
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My 27 year old brother is a long-term meth addict and really an all-around degenerate. He is a total parasite who remorseleslly squanders my aging parents’ resources on drugs, cigarettes, alcohol, gas, legal fees and anything else he wants. He harasses and abuses my parents viciously to het what he wants out of them. He is a really, really terrible person and I found it necessary to disown him; am no longer even willing to acknowledge him. My parents enable him by providing all the resources he needs to carry out his despicable lifestyle and protecting him from the consequences of his actions. He goes through life doing stupid, reckless criminal things with no fear of consequences because he knows my parents will always clean up the wreckage for him. He recently got arrested for DUI, meth possession and hit and run. My parents came to his rescue with thousands of dollars to bail him out of jail and hire a slezebag lawyer who successfully negotiated a ridiculous deal to get most of the charges dropped and keep him out of jail. I have tried so many times to get them to see the relationship between their willingness to support him unconditionally and his readiness to indulge in such a despicable lifestyle, but they just can’t see it. Every problem caused by previous acts of enabling they respond to with yet more enabling. I now know that they will NEVER change and that this will continue indefinitely until my parents run out of money or die. Why are they like this? They have totally destroyed our family to enable this worthless parasite’s drug addiction. How can they not see it? Is it that they just don’t care? Is it that they just don’t want too see that they are at the root of the problem? how else could they not understand?
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Answer by Mouseketeer
In your parents eyes they still see that cute little boy, but never having to deal with a drug user i don’t totally understand the situation. He needs intervention or he is going to kill himself, drugs will bring out the worst in a person. Hopefully there is help out there for him, God bless you and your family.
Answer by Bethan
I think its a hard one I know what you mean there funding him to do these things maybe there hoping he will change but as you can see this is not looking as the case but they are bkinded by love and and that means they will support your brother no matter what and it would be the same if you was in his situation. I’m affraid there is not much you can do one day he will do something wrong and they won’t be able to help
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