My Fiance’s Parents Are Trying to Break Us Up Because We Are Two Women in Love, What the Hell?
Question by Marike Pienaar: My fiance’s parents are trying to break us up because we are two women in love, what the hell?
If your homophobic don’t even bother reading this.
ok we are both 22 years old, she is a full time vetenary student and I work for the goverment. We have been together for a year, what a year. After 10 months I asked her to marry me while we were vacationing in Cape Town, we told her parents of the engagement about a week after that seeing that they also live in Cape Town, they knew about the relationship since day one, but I don’t think either of us were expeting what happend next. Her father kicked her out off the house, stood right infront of me and asked her to choose between her family and me, what the hell? I will never allow her to choose me over her family. So I told her father this is so wrong on so many levels and you don’t kick your daughter out of the house just for loving someone else, he didnt want to listen and almost gave me a slap so I told her to get in the car because clearly we are not excepted there and we drove back to Pretoria. While I was driving back her mom sent me a text saying that I made her daughter give up her dream, I have broken their family and made her loose her daughter forever. what???? you kicked her out of the house and forced yourself into a nevouse break down, she should realise this is not the worst thing a child can do to her parents, my brother, God rest his soul, was a drug abuser, he physicly abused us, stole everything, he was in jail more times than I can count, he was in and out of rehab, worked for the mafia and this all happened before he turned 18 and my parents never kicked him out or turned their back on him. My fiance’s mother doesn’t know what hell a child can cause. Her father has a heart condition and every time they get into a fight her mom says her husband is going to die because my fiance is breaking them and if he does die she will hold her responsible and blame her for the rest of her life….. can you say overacting sheeesh!!!! She doesn’t scream, ignore or swear anything at her parents, she has never not listened to them or done something wrong, never came home drunk, never ran away from home nothing. Her parents say that I have made her give up her dream but they are the ones that told her if she does’nt break off the angagment they will stop paying for her studies while I told them if you do that I will do everything in my power to make her succeed in her studies and I will pay for everything, but nooooo they call me selfish just because I asked her to marry me. That night when we got home her mom called her and told her that i minipulated her into saying yes, wow wow wow…. she told me over and over and over that she wanted to get ingaged and i wanted to ass well. her mom thinks I’m the worst person on this planet and she is my puppet, but this women should realise that she is nobodies puppet, not mine not theirs, she is her own person who can make her own choices and if she told me she wanted to break it off because she wanted to and not that her parents wanted her to I will not even say a word and just respect her dicision but she has not said that to me once….
My queistion is, what do I do to make this better, her mom doesn’t want to talk to me or listen what she has to say.
Peace Mieke!.
Sorry guys I’m not english I’m Afrikaans so my spelling is a bit off!
Best answer:
Answer by Music-IS-Life
sorry to say but im not sure there is anything you can do 🙁 some people just dont understand that loving someone who is the same gender isnt a bad thing, they think its a sin/wrong, which is kind of ironic considering these people who think its wrong to love someone the same gender, usually disown/disrespect their own kids!!
Answer by bossman0740
Clearly her parents are not comfortable with your relationship. Perhaps they were hoping it would end rather than become more serious. There is nothing that you can say or do to change their minds. Your fiance will have to decide whether she is willing to let her parents control and manipulate her just to have contact with them. It is an unfortunate situation, and they are blaming you because in their minds you are the bad person, when really they are the ones who are wrong. If you are truly in love then you shouldn’t let anyone get in the way of that because of their own prejudices. Do what the both of you feel is right and don’t let anyone guilt you into making a decision based on threats and coercion.
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